March 26, 2008
All about the Sex
For me, poly can be about a sexual friendship, but that is not where the definition ends. Unfortunately, using that particular definition opens doors that I would rather brick up and forget about.
One of my best friends lives halfway across the state. I see him two or three times a year when he comes back to his hometown for a visit, and we have lunch or hang out. He and I also happened to date 7 years ago, and except for a brief stint with the girl that cheated on me with, he hasn’t had a girlfriend since. And he sees poly as a long closed door re-opening. I had to have an incredibly hard talk with him yesterday, since he will be visiting me next week again. I explained that I wasn’t interested in a new relationship with him, and he started to argue the point. He is one of my best friends, and I do love him, but not in a romantic way. So what about sex? he say. Stop protecting me, he says. What am I supposed to do?
I promised him I would keep an open mind, and I will, but I also made him promise not to make a move on me, and let him know not to expect anything. So what’s a girl to do?