April 21, 2008
Poly (dating) on the Web
The internet is one of my favorite things in the whole wide world. I can learn so many things, and since I am a really good researcher, I can find things that many people have trouble locating. I have taken a few free lessons in ASL, learned about things that I would never have even thought about, and watched some of my favorite comedians or performers for free on YouTube. But I can’t seem to find a decent poly person who is a) local b) my age or at least within 15 years and c) not a prick.
I am young. I am female. I am actually pretty (I think, anyway, and I have been told so). This alone is enough to get a lot of guys thinking about it… maybe even brushing off their manners so that I don’t bolt. I am also a wife and mother. I love those two parts of myself, but most guys, well, they don’t so much.
Do I mind? Nope. In fact, I’ve pulled the mommy card to get annoying guys to leave me the heck alone. Every time he IMs, “Oops! My baby just started crying!” After the second time they just forget about me. Even poly groups are filled with two kinds of people: the creeps, and the people who seem nice and lovely and all, but are older than my parents.
There are a lot of cool poly groups, but it seems to be something that this generation has not really picked up on yet. Either that, or they’re all too young and hot to bother with online dating since they have no trouble getting some.
I have come to conclude that online dating just plain sucks… and it doesn’t get any easier if you’re poly!