April 23, 2008

The Ethical Slut

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , at 9:04 am by Kathleen

The Ethical Slut is a book that attempts to reclaim the word “slut” as a word of empowerment for polyamorous people, men and women.  It actually has a lot of good information about polyamory in general and how poly people relate.

I mentioned The Ethical Slut in my last post, and said that I recommend taking it with a grain of salt.  That is because the author subscribes to what we call “Polyanna Poly”.  In other words, WAY optimistic and “happy-fluffy” about the subject.  That is not to say it is a bad read, it just means that if you’re like me, your eyes will glaze over as you read and fantasize about a perfect poly world where jealousy is dealt with with a quick hug and everyone is a big, happy, sex positive family.

The truth about poly is that it is messy.  But for those like me who don’t mind navigating the mess, it is a lot of fun, and really worth it.  I asked Michael last night why he still wanted to be poly, and his answer was about what I expected.  Sure, it’s fun to be able to talk to people and think “what if”, and to even know that you could flirt or more without repercussions, but the real benefit in it for him is the extra closeness that this level of trust and vulnerability has brought us.

The Ethical Slut.  Good information presented with rosy glasses.  Remember that life is not always so happy or so easy, and it will be a great source of information (and it’s really fun to watch the cashier at Barnes & Noble try to not stare. 🙂 )

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2 Comments »

  1. TAG! Ha… you’re it… see my blog for details.. and blame Colby

  2. Hey! Don’t blame me…I got dragged into the mess also. But heck, it’s fun anyway 😉


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