April 1, 2010

A Sad Look at Poly

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , at 12:18 pm by Kathleen

I was reading a post today by Dear Margo, and the first letter of the day was a man writing in about polyamory. I was rather disheartened yet again not only by her response, which was lukewarm at best, but by the responses of many of the readers condemning the letter writer as a typical man thinking with his dick, an insecure person, or someone trying to justify cheating. I know that poly is not for everyone, but it makes me sad to see it talked about like devil worship.

The letter writer, to me, sounds like a formerly monogamous man who is struggling to come to terms with the fact that a woman he cares for is poly. It sounds like he is striving for acceptance within himself, and, finding it in some measure, trying to share that enlightenment with the world. His letter could have been better written, clearer, more impactful, but the truth of the matter is that is not the official PR spokesperson for poly, he is just someone struggling in the dark to learn more about himself and to separate his feelings from what society tells him to feel.

People like him, people who struggle with the concept of poly everywhere, need love and support, not condemnation.




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