August 9, 2010

A Free Sexy Story by Yours Truly

Posted in Story Link tagged , , , , , , at 2:21 pm by Kathleen

If you’re interested in kinky sex, check out my short story at The Erotic Woman. Hopefully there will be more coming soon.

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May 25, 2009

OMG A Date that went WELL! (And Lots of Firsts!)

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 7:15 pm by Kathleen

This weekend I discovered through first hand, personal experience that:

a) I am definitely bi-sexual

b) I am definitely a switch

c) Sex with other women is indeed both desirable AND fun in an entirely different way than sex with Michael is

d) By extension of item c, I have also confirmed that I am definitely poly.

I had a lovely play date with Rae and Robert, and fun was had all around. The first half was mostly kinky play and not very sexual (I mean, there was kissing and caressing, but it was not “having sex”, it was just play). Afterward we all piled up for a group snuggle, and… well, someone got frisky… I’m not even sure WHO got frisky at first, but we quickly devolved into a writhing mass of limbs. It was very sexual and not very play-y, and more fun was had.

I didn’t actually have sex with Rob, especially since neither of us had talked about the possibility, but I did have sex with Rae and Rob and Rae also had sex while I petted, played, kissed, and eventually flogged. Oh, flogging Rae while she was having sex with Rob… HOT. Rae, thank him again for the flogging lesson for me, would ya? 🙂

I am really comforted that it seemed like all three of us had a really good time. Rae was also really excited, since it was her first poly experience and her first bi experience as well. We went for food afterward, and she was expressing how nice and how surprising it was to her that she just had “casual sex with a casual acquaintance” and that nothing was strange or uncomfortable. There was, as she put it, no loss of possibility. We could still be friends, fuck buddies, or play partners, or lovers, and nothing was off limits or totally crazy just because we had sex. And best of all, there were three very happy people in the car, and no one was angry about any of it. Whee!

Fun note: The first and only time Michael had sex with Becky, it was on our couch, and I was upstairs in bed. This weekend, while we were playing and having sex, it was in their bed, and Michael was asleep on the couch. Symmetry makes me smile.

Blessings,

Kathleen

June 3, 2008

Why I don’t want to date a dom

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , , at 10:06 am by Kathleen

Pretty much the ONLY place I socialize anymore is at the dungeon, which lends itself to one small problem… you see, I have pretty much ruled out dating a dom, and two subs dating can get pretty boring.

Why is that you ask?  Well, I have a dom.  My husband is my Master, and I am very happy with this collaring arrangement.  I don’t mind playing with other doms, but once they get to the “let’s be partners” stage, they start thinking about things (and I am being general here, so don’t yell at me if you’re the exception to this rule) things like collaring.  I have a collar, thanks.

Doms are kind of possessive by nature, and while that isn’t a bad thing, many of them do NOT like to share someone that they are seriously involved with.

A sub on the other hand… I am pretty subby, but I have been getting toppy tendencies that leads me to believe that I might be able to dom the right person eventually.  The problem is, I am picky about guys, and I would be REALLY picky about subs.  There are very few men who can properly cower in a ways that doesn’t totally turn me off. 😉  Not sure what that way is, but I’ve only met a couple of sub men that I thought I could actually enjoy playing with.  Maybe one day I’ll actually take the reins.

In the mean time… thanks for reading! 😉

Blessings,

Kathleen

March 23, 2008

All in the Family

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , , , , , at 7:24 am by Kathleen

Although my parents are by no means ready to hear that I am poly, I thought a couple of months ago that my brother, who loves, cares about, and looks up to me, might be. We were playing darts in my office (the hallway is the perfect length to throw darts from the office doorway to the bedroom door where the board is mounted) when I brought up poly as an idea, and then told my brother about Michael’s relationship with Becky (who he was still dating at the time). I also told him a little about BDSM without going into too much detail. If you’re jumping in, might as well go big, right?

Well it turns out that my brother found the idea of poly odd but acceptable, and the idea of BDSM disgusting. Of course, he also thinks of himself as disgusting, since he has violent fantasies from time to time. (My brother and I talk pretty frankly about sexual stuff, in part because he hasn’t had sex and I am trying to offer guidance and make him feel good about himself). I think I gave him a little peace on that front that day, and he promised not to tell our parents for fear that they might die of shock.

My brother now has a girlfriend. She is 16 (he is 19), which is funny since Michael and I were about those ages when we met, and she is a lot like me. Flirty, kisses a lot, but still a virgin – sexy and confident, but on the fringe… oh, and she’s definitely a bottom and possibly a masochist who fantasizes about being beat up and even raped (before anyone gets all righteous here, rape fantasies are INCREDIBLY common, and I enjoy them myself, so no judgments, please). They seem to be falling for each other pretty hard, and I find it all very reminiscent to how Micheal and I met and fell in love. What a great story! They are apparently going to have some great kinky sex and, even better, they talked about poly together! They agreed that it would be too confusing, but they are both teenagers right now, and Michael and I took a long time to warm up to the idea. Since my brother expresses no jealousy at the idea that she still has other crushes and kisses her friends, methinks we’re gonna have a pair of poly kinksters in the family.

Blessings,

Kathleen

March 8, 2008

Mmmm… Jellybeans

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , , , , , at 7:13 pm by Kathleen

I’m only going to be able to vaguely relate this to poly, but it is a relationship thing, I swear.  B are with me…

My husband and I are “into” BDSM.  I found out that my secret feelings had a name, submission, and that there were other people like me all over the place.  This was so exciting to me that I was not some kind of freak, but it also scared me.  What was I going to tell my husband?  It took a lot of courage, but I told him about myself and my feelings and then told him a little bit about BDSM.  His response was, heart warmingly, that he would do whatever he needed to in order to give me what I needed.  I have a really great guy.

We started out with light play and me topping from the bottom, moving deeper until we hit Master/slave, but I was still feeling as if something was not right, and maintaining the power all the time was exhausting Michael, so we stopped cold for a while, back to normal, just to get a rest.  One day I mentioned how much I loved it when he called me pet (I think I was also pouting at how seldom he called me that), and our new relationship was born.

I am a service sub, which means that I get my jollies off of doing things like cooking for my Love, but I also have very pet-like inclinations, like my mischievous side, which I kind of had to suppress in slave-mode.  Calling me a pet gave me the control (or rather lack of control) that I wanted, and  him a level of control that he could handle, and things have been great.  By the way, this is NOT puppy play.  I am a human… just a pet human.  🙂

So… on to the jelly beans… they are my treat when I am a good girl.  I get one jelly bean, and he gives it to me by hand.  I love it.  He does the same sometimes with things like popcorn, but jelly beans are my “good girl” snack.  *melt*

I wonder how this will affect our poly relationships as time goes on.  He tends to equalize things between us when it comes to outside relationships (allowing me to chat with a close male friend, for example, when I was on a speaking ban at home) .  I wonder what his girlfriends in the future will think when they see me kneeling on command, sitting at his feet, or having my head scratched.  I wonder if my boyfriends will “get it”.  Kink and poly often are near each other at least, but certainly not always.

I love my jellybeans.  🙂